It’s not about your parents

Hi Friend,

I wanted to share something with you today that might feel a bit heavy at first, but is actually the key to a lot of freedom.

It’s time to forgive your parents.

Here is the thing: it’s not actually about them. They did what they had to do for your soul. Whether it was painful or joyful, they re-exposed you to themes that you needed to see—maybe old pain or patterns that were already there.

The real struggle usually isn't what they did, but how we interpreted it as children.

If a parent was critical, you might have decided: "I am not good enough." But another interpretation could have been: "They are trying to help me." We create our own reality based on those early interpretations, and often, we choose to carry a burden that isn't necessary.

Your parents did the best they could with their level of consciousness at the time. Raising children is intense, and there are no perfect children and no perfect parents.

But now, you have your own life. You have the luxury to feel, to look back, and to make a new choice. You can choose an interpretation that feels light and easy, rather than one of struggle.

Holding a grudge only distorts your own life. The moment you realize that their actions were about them, and your story about it was just a story, you can let go.

Rewrite that story into something that sets you up for flow and ease, not fight and struggle.

Much love,

Kees